Anxiety Forum

pentium · Joined: 25 Oct 2007 Posts: 1

hi
i am new to this forum and i have this problem of avoiding eye contact with girls and shy of them.
this has made me lose many sexual experiences and i really feels sorry for myself
any ideas and suggestions

antsycat · Joined: 02 Nov 2007 Posts: 8

I had this problem with boys when I was younger. I started improving after I decided that I should think of boys I meet as potential friends rather than protential boyfriends. After I began using this way of thinking, I felt less pressured. Hope that helps!
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The Melody of Rain · mucho contributor Joined: 07 Aug 2007 Posts: 117

That's about the best advice you can get.
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setler · Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2007 12:50 am Post subject:

Maybe try making some close friendships with girls. It is one of those things you just have to go at every time, even though it is hard as hell. I still get nervous when I call a girl on the phone, whether it is a friend, someone I like, or a girl friend...... but I am constantly anxious anyways so maybe it is that winkface

Good luck! PM me if you want to ask more.

bluey · Joined: 09 Feb 2008 Posts: 20

Oh where do i start!!!
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louisrapisarda · master poster Joined: 16 Apr 2008 Posts: 62

me 2 i have it i carnt stop it help!!!!!!!!! pm me i am tryig to think of friends. i think they'll look at me think im ugly and walk of
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if 15 HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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cooliomanx · Joined: 22 May 2008 Posts: 12

just try to relax and tel yourself that they like you too

Spot · Joined: 03 Jul 2008 Posts: 23

Keep in mind you may have the perfect level of wrongness/rightness they're looking for and feel comfortable with you. Oh yeah, I found learning to laugh at yourself helps - makes them laugh too.

culljosh · Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2008 12:33 am Post subject:

Simply just be yourself.
There is nothing more better
and be in a comfortable place.

if it is her house then let that be as comfortable as you make it.
That part is up too you.

davidd · Joined: 30 Nov 2008 Posts: 7 Location: United States

I suggest you get some David Deangelo material... He is a pickup artist but also talks about the inner game, meaning becoming stronger with woman on the inside...

If you want a good resource on anxiety stuff I'm just look at anxietymaterial dot com it's pretty cool and if you really deal with that anyway I'm sure you will be great with the girls :-)

danstelter · apprentice poster Joined: 09 Dec 2008 Posts: 37

A good thing to keep in mind is that there are plenty of girls out there, and the right one will accept you, even the anxious you. So, while you may not have had as much sex as you'd like, you will still find a healthy partner sometime in the future. If one girl doesn't work out, try another. All good things come in time!
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