Anxiety Forum

zzserenazz · Joined: 24 May 2007 Posts: 2

I have really bad insurance, which will be up very, very soon. I'm on anti-depressants, and get really messed up when i'm not.

I can't afford to go to someone that can help me with agoraphobia... The person that's taking it worse than I am, though, is my boyfriend. We've been together over 2 years, and i've only been to his house maybe 3 times. He always comes here. Recently he's been getting sick of having to come over. He says he loves me, and I believe him, but right now he gave me a choice... Get help now, or he's gone for good.

I don't know what i'm supposed to do. I know I probably can't get over this without help, and I just can't afford it. I already owe 40k for college... Last time I was left by someone i loved, i thought about killing myself... It was only a year with him, and i'm afraid of what will happen after two years.

Please help me?

Vikki · Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 20 Location: Wyoming

I completeley understand about affording help for our problem. I have seen 5 different shrinks and they really have not helped. Have you tried meds for anxiety like busbar (spelling?) or xanax. Maybe they could help you get out a little more and it would ease the strain on your relationship.
There are some books at the library on anxiety, you can check them out and not have to pay for them. And many web sites with info. Positive thinking is very important.
Do you leave the house at all? I try and get out every other day...doesn't always work.

zzserenazz · Joined: 24 May 2007 Posts: 2

I can go out and do things regularly, i'm just kinda limited on how far I can go. My boyfriend lives 1/2 hour away from me without traffic... Usually the places I go daily are a 10-20 minute drive.

squirt · master poster Joined: 11 Oct 2006 Posts: 95

zzs, if you are willing to work at the exercises you can cure yourself on your own but you have to work on yourself everyday to get yourself better. I was in a cbt group and it has helped me immensely. If you can join one I would highly recommend it. If not there are lots of good books on cbt you could get and cbt is basically do it yourself stuff anyway. One of the ones we used in my group has a really good introduction to the whole process called Been there, done that? do this! by sam obitz. The tea form exercise in that book has helped me a ton and I still do them all the time when I get upset or anxious. Best of luck to you and try cbt one way or the other smile

Beachgirl · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 7:56 pm Post subject:

dna_hard · Joined: 13 May 2008 Posts: 10

first, sorry for your hardship as of lately; your boyfriend should help you instead of making threats of leaving... Unless you refuse to help your self, you would be suprised how much stronger you are when being independent. Trust me, i am co dependent on my wife and she totally understands my condition. I hate traffic, but one thing that i can advice you is that you find someone to ride with you and you can go alot further then 20 minutes.

I have been there and done this, anxiety is comes in waves, if you just fight through that first big wave, the waves get smaller and smaller. You gotta forget about trying to get home fast because that anticipation is causing you much more stress which builds more anxiety, also do not be scared to take xanax or something to calm when you go on trips, 20 minutes away or one hour away, that anxiety will fade over time. I do not like that first 20 minutes of the trip, but i can actually feel the anxiety going down but you gotta have someone there supporting you. I live in houston and hate the traffic here; but i gotta get out sometimes, its part of life and you feel better when you get home. Staying in the house all the time causes more anxiety over time then pushing myself to get out from time to time.

Dixxie · Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 2:29 pm Post subject:

The anxiety does come and go in waves...when I had to take a taxi with my son after his jaw surgery, I felt the wave coming on (sitting in the back of taxi) and had to roll down the window for cool air. Coming home from the doctor it was no problem. Same with going on the Commuter train.. Go Train....I could feel it coming on....then after 10 min. of thinking and being quiet, i was able to compose myself again. It's shitty isn't it???

I am trying a group tonite.....7 p.m. My mother looked shocked when I told her I wanted to go because taking pills is really not the answer for me in the long run. They make you feel like a zombie and give headaches...they're okay for some people though.......apparently. smile

Beachgirl · Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 6:46 pm Post subject:

Dixxie, I think it is great you are going to a group tonight. If we truly want to get better it really is up to us to take action. I hope it is a CBT based group like mine was, they are really excellent and the TEA form exercise from the book by sam obitz is a lifesaver. Work on them everyday and you will gain the upper hand on your anxieties. Keep up the good work!

djkikis · Joined: 26 May 2008 Posts: 5

hugs. wow i feel your pain. I know how hard it is. I've been dealing with anxiety and depression for a long long time. And I'm blessed because my parents are lucky enough to be able to support me. It is such a difficult thing to go through, it's been horrendous for me. *Hugs*

trackstar · apprentice poster Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 38

I agree about cbt and you really help yourself with it so I'm pretty sure anyone that is motivated can do it on their own for free at the library or if you can't leave your house you can order books on-line. I just finished my 16-week group and cant believe i feel this much better already. We used the book by obitz and the tea forms in my group and they really are awesome.

squirt · master poster Joined: 11 Oct 2006 Posts: 95

Wow this is an old thread that has come back to life... Zzz's if you are still around I hope you are doing better. Dixxie how did your group go? Was it a cbt based group? I hope whatever kind it was that it was helpful. Good to see others posting about their successes with cbt and the tea form. They saved my life Grin

Beachgirl · Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:05 pm Post subject:

Dixxie, how did your group end up going girl? Inquiring minds want to know tongue

trackstar · apprentice poster Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 38

Hi Dixie, we have not met but this is the second thread I noticed people asking how your group went and now I am curious oh my

Was it a cbt group?

Beachgirl · Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 12:00 pm Post subject:

Dixxie you still out there? Stop by and give us an update when you get a chance. We care smile

kevinpanic · Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 8

I can't afford it either.

I am trying the Linden Method, which I downloaded through utorrent on piratebay. I know its not right, but I would rather try something before buying it, then if it works I will pay for it.

Maybe you should try that too, from what I have read it has helped people.
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