Anxiety Forum

[korgoosh]

I almost completely attribute to the fact I was bullied a lot. I was small for my age and a bit shy, so I was a target in school. It didn't help that my well-meaning parents told me to 'ignore it.' It seems so strange that there is so much talk these days about the effect bullies have on children, but when I was growing up, there was next to none.

[sashee7]

it always comes back to the age old argument of nature vs nuture. Some people will go through everything we went thru as children and still come out the end standing tall with no anxiety in the world. others may only need one little thing in their childhood to make them like us.

unfortunately out parents will always play a part in our behaviour, beliefs and values whether or not we hate them so much we do the exact opposite or whether we pick parts of their behaviour that makes us feel good and model ourselfs on that.

the sad thing is that i think for me it was a combination of things in my childhood mixed wiith my genetics as both my grandmother (is extremly high stung) and her father was also high strung due to being a prisinor of war. I do believe being the first born has also effected me cos im the eldest of 5 and with that comes perfectionism, alot of responsibility and your parents being "harder" on you because ur the first one. I felt at times that i had alot to live upto and it is this that feeds the anxiety, behaviours and beliefs.

Its only now that im realising that the person who sets these extremly high standards and beliefs about who i should be is only myself and it is the anxiety i get when i dont perform to my own standards,,,

always nature & nuture.

[anxiolytic]

pills are the cure to anxiety, theyre just perfect, on and off, they help me and make me forget about my anxiety and help me lead a normal life.
i feel blessed because ive got 100's of valium, ativan and xanax. i help some of my friends if they cant sleep. someone add me please, wana talk to someone
anx2010@hotmail.co.uk